Finding the time

With a busy household of four children ranging from one to twenty, my nephew, 2 dogs and 1 cat; you can only imagine the chaos surrounding me. Finding time to create was a challenging task and to be rested enough to produce quality plans and structure to my dreams. Many nights I went to bed frustrated. Disappointed that the dishes weren't done, work projects were looming, and not even a second's thought to my vision.

Eating well was out the door, not to mention exercise, unless you counted the steps taken to run down a half-naked toddler that thought running away during his diaper change was hilarious. Days turned to weeks, weeks turned to months, and months made it feel like I would never see things come together. Then one night, I had an epiphany...

I was going about it wrong

I would rush through an extensive list of things needing to be done, hoping to get through it all. And when I was overwhelmed, I would resort to doom scrolling and feeling sorry for myself. I was forgetting to stay centered and maintaining my inner peace. I was forgetting to meditate.

Meditation helped me cope with the stress of life. And eventually it helped me realize that life wasn't stressful at all - my reactions to life were creating those feelings. But I didn't need to react like that at all. I could grab my toddler and tickle him and join in his joy while slapping that diaper on his cute lil butt! So, I had resolved to change how I structured my time and learned to prioritize the things that mattered.

The first step to aligning your goals to your purpose is discovering what is important and in what order. I leaned on Dan Sullivan's 4 C's -

Commitment, Courage, Capability, and Confidence

Evaluate your current commitments and ask yourself if they align with your goals. Have the courage to remove things that no longer serve you on your journey. Just like you use commitment and courage to clear your path, you require those two things to create your future! You must commit to your mission. And you must have the courage to face the unknown and fear of failure. As Dan states, "Courage feels scary because you don't yet have the proof your commitment will pay off". Only after you commit and have the courage to see it through, will you apply yourself and gain the skillset needed to become capable of success in your goals. When you continue to apply these 3 C's, you will eventually obtain the fourth C - Confidence, to continue dreaming big and accomplishing all that you set your mind to!

This is how I overcame the seemingly endless cycle of chaos and became more intentional in how I was living. My household, although highly energetic in its everyday routines, became easier to maintain. I started to have more fun with my family, and we enjoyed the time spent together. I was able to focus easier and allowed myself time to continue my meditation practices. This, in turn, helped me apply the right attention to my homestead plans and gave me the confidence to continue building a more wholesome future for my family. We all have the same amount of time in the day -

How're you using that time???